"Amend It to End It"

Dan Savage has a great piece this week in the Stranger about the religious right’s next move against gay families – banning adoption. Now that bans on civil unions and/or marriage have passed in a good chunk of our nation’s states, the move to constitutionally ban adoption for gay parents is directly on our heals.

(Savage and his partner are fathers to an 8-year old son, whose adoption he chronicles in his book, “The Kid.”)

In “Amend It to End It,” Savage begins:
My son had a fever, and it was spiking—103, 104, 105. The nurse on the phone told us to fill a tub with cold water, dump in whatever ice we had in the freezer, and set him in the bath to break his fever. Five minutes later we were standing in the bathroom, empty ice trays in the sink, watching the tub slowly fill with cold water. I didn't have the heart to do it—I couldn't just set my feverish, distraught son into a tub full of ice water. So I did what any decent parent would do: I got undressed, stepped into the tub first, and sat down. Then my boyfriend handed our son to me. We sat there together, ice cubes floating around us, my son's thin, warm arms wrapped around my neck, until his fever broke.
He cites USA Today in reporting that anti-gay-adoption laws are being "drafted or discussed," in Alabama, Alaska, Arizona, Georgia, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Michigan, Missouri, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, and West Virginia.
The arguments social conservatives use against adoptions by same-sex couples are every bit as dishonest as the arguments they employ against same-sex marriage. They point to studies that show children with married parents do better than those with single parents (ignoring the fact that these studies measure the benefits of having two parents, not two opposite-sex parents), and they refuse to acknowledge the existence of numerous studies that show children raised by same-sex couples do just as well as children raised by heterosexual couples.

Perhaps most infuriating, opponents of adoptions by gay and lesbian couples seek to create the impression that there is a home—a heterosexual home—for every child waiting to be adopted. All children deserve, the religious right argues, a mother and a father. It's a blandly appealing nod to normalcy that masks an insidious insult: When it comes to adoption, any heterosexual couple—any heterosexual couple at all, however dysfunctional—is preferable to even the healthiest homosexual couple. All same-sex couples are, by definition, unfit to parent.
His solution to lawmakers? Read it here.


At 12:02 PM, Blogger Communitygal said...

Well of course. The wingnuts behind these efforts are proving our slippery slope arguments. These adoption efforts are the next step down the slippery slope. Next, gays will not be allowed to live in straight neighborhoods (don't forget that Julaine Appling said, with a note of generosity, that "we let them live where they want to"). Then we will be accused, like immigrants are now, of taking jobs that straight people want. Next stop, gas chamber. As a friend of mine said last night--I'm only half kidding about this.

At 3:32 PM, Blogger Mike Fitzpatrick said...

Gay couples are, by definition, unfit to parent (according to the Religious Right) because gay people are, by definiton, unfit - period.

That which you cannot tolerate, you must ultimately kill. From Christians serving as lion lunch meat, to the Crusades, to the Inquisiton, to the Holocaust, to Hmong genocide in Laos, to Tutsi genocide by Hutus just a decade ago ("Hotel Rwanda"),it always has been thus.

The references to homosexuality in the Bible used by the Religious Right number 13 tops. Yet in that same book, Christians are admonished to deal with hunger and homelessness over 2000 times.

Can you imagine a world where these "Christians" went after the latter with the same fervor they go after the former? And do they recognize the damage they are doing to their own movement long term by focusing on us?


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